Counselor & People Helpers

Irreconcilable Differences

Irreconcilable Differences

The Destructive Impact of a Lack of Humility in Our Nation When I used to do marriage counseling, there were certain attitudes on the part of one, or both, spouses that I knew would doom a marriage. If I could not get them to empathize with one another or see things...

Recognizing Bad Fruit Isn’t Judging

Recognizing Bad Fruit Isn’t Judging

However, recognizing bad fruit doesn’t require judgment. It’s obvious. The fruit is either good or bad. I’d say when someone curses you again and again or spits in your face and utters hateful words, that is bad fruit. If someone oppresses you, or restricts your freedom to even think or act independently, that’s bad fruit– and God hates it.

Is it Really Abuse?

Is it Really Abuse?

This is part one in a series.   Step one in becoming free from the impact of living with a destructive spouse or partner is admitting the truth. Oddly enough, we find that many times victims of domestic abuse do not even recognize that they are being abused. Rather...

How Twisting Words Destroys Relationships

How Twisting Words Destroys Relationships

This twisting of words and distortion of intentions kills relationships, and those who face it have little power to change things.

Uniformed people helpers tell us that if we would just win them over with a quiet and gentle spirit or bless them enough, they’ll come around. Nothing could be further from the truth.

When Anger Takes Over

When Anger Takes Over

Today's post is an excerpt from Chapter 12 of my book, Called to Peace: A Survivor's Guide to Finding Peace and Healing After Domestic Abuse. Whether you've been through an abusive relationship or not, life is often unfair and it's easy to find yourself overwhelmed...