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Session #1: Discerning the Dynamics & Impacts of Domestic Abuse
Chris Moles and Joy Forrest
Responding to domestic abuse and coercive control is tricky and wise responses are often counter intuitive. Without understanding the dynamics of these complex situations, well meaning people helpers can easily do more harm than good. Learn how to recognize the common traits, signs, and impacts of destructive relationships. Proverbs 4:7, “The beginning of wisdom is this: Get wisdom, and whatever you get, get insight.”
Session #2: The Wisdom in Building Teams
Due to the complexities of DA and CC, it is wise to address these issues with a multi-faceted team approach. Learn how team building can enhance the effectiveness of your church’s response. Proverbs 15:22, “Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed.”
Panel Discussion with Counselors: Lessons Learned
Joy Forrest, Chris Moles, Sharmen Kimbrough, Omar King, Jim Upchurch,
Mindy Williams, Dr. Debra Wingfield, Chuck Wingfield
Hear the personal stories and lessons learned from a panel of experienced counselors and therapists.
Session #3: Common Mistakes and Wise Corrections
Learn how to recognize and correct the common mistakes that pastors, counselors, & people helpers have made in ministering to families affected by destructive and harmful relationships. Proverbs 19:20, “Listen to advice and accept discipline, and at the end you will be counted among the wise.”
Session #4: Theological Landmines & Wise Conversations
Many times misplaced theology can add to the oppression of victims of Domestic Abuse and coercive control. Learn how your church’s theological perspective can provide and hope to victims. Proverbs 8:14, “Counsel and
sound judgment are mine; I have insight, I have power.”
Session #5: The Wisdom in Using Advocates (Pre-recorded)
Learn the many ways that including a skilled domestic abuse advocate on your team can exponentially improve your response. Proverbs 31:8-9, “Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves, for the rights of all who are destitute. Speak up and judge fairly; defend the rights of the poor and needy.
Church-Based Responses: A Critique
Chris Moles, Jim Upchurch, Joy Forrest, Mindy Williams, & others
Join pastors Jim and Chris with counselors Joy and Mindy for a critique of common church-based responses along with ways to improve victim outcomes and abuser accountability.
Joy, Chris, and Team
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Overcoming Legal System Challenges: When Domestic Violence is Involved
Learn how to get safe, get help, get peace and how to pursue affordable legal consultation and services when domestic violence is involved. This section is taught by a licensed attorney who practices primarily in the areas of high conflict custody and domestic violence. We will also discuss how the law defines domestic violence and domestic abuse and the limitations of law enforcement and protective orders. Finally, we will discuss the difficulties women have in particular once a protective order goes into place so that you can be proactive and prepared. There will also be tips for pastors and other helpers who want the best outcomes for their clients.
Legal Complications of Custody and Domestic Violence
This section is an expansion to “Overcoming Legal System Challenges: When Domestic Violence is Involved” and is taught by a licensed attorney who practices primarily in the areas of high conflict custody and domestic violence. She will talk specifically about the difficulties that women face when trying to protect their children in custody court against an abusive partner and will also discuss the brand new 2020 empirical study by Joan S. Meier, “U.S. Child Custody Outcomes in Cases Involving Parental Alienation and Abuse Allegations.” The study found that in 43% of cases where the courts found that a father abused the mother and the mother was also alienating, the mother lost custody of her children to the abusive father. We will discuss implications of that study and ways to avoid that in your family and with those that you are helping.
Chris Moles and Chuck Wingfield
A conversation regarding abuser accountability from two men with years of experience in batterer intervention.
Are you Ready to Become an Advocate
Debra Wingfield and Joy Forrest
Are you ready to become a domestic violence advocate? In this video with Dr. Debra Wingfield and Joy Forrest we discuss why advocacy is so important in responding well to domestic abuse. In addition, we discuss who should become an advocate, how you know when you’re ready, and how to get started.
How to use the Gottman Assessment to Screen for Domestic Abuse in Marital Counseling
The Gottman Assessment can be a useful tool for counselors and pastors who are trying to distinguish between normal marital conflict and domestic abuse or destructive behaviors. In this informational session, therapist Tabitha Westbrook explains how to use this assessment.
Pointers for Pastors
Jim Upchurch and Joy Forrest
Joy Forrest interviews Pastor Jim Upchurch (Christ Church Rolesville) about lessons learned in dealing with Domestic abuse within the church. Jim gives tips and cautions for ministry leaders and Pastors
Red Flags to Look For
Omar King and Joy Forrest
Omar King joins Joy Forrest for a discussion on recognizing the signs of domestic abuse and coercive control, and building skills to uncover more covert cases.
Joy Forrest, Sharmen Kimbrough
Joy Forrest and Sharmen Kimbrough, therapist and relationship coach, discuss mistakes made early on in their counseling careers and share their experiences and wisdom.
Body, Mind, & Soul for Survivors, Part 1
Amy Bruton M.D. discusses the physical impacts of domestic abuse, coercive control and covert abuse, along with natural solutions for overcoming them. Bodily impacts can include: migraines, auto-immune issues, thyroid problems, and much more.
Body, Mind, & Soul for Survivors, Part 2
How our mind impacts our body and how to help calm it.
How the Book of Proverbs Assisted in Identifying the Lies of My Abuser
Transitioning from domestic abuse victim to survivor required years of work towards defeating the lies of my abuser that were so deeply ingrained in my head. Three fundamental tools I used to defeat my abuser’s lies came from the book of Proverbs.