Devotionals

When Self-Pity Becomes Toxic

When Self-Pity Becomes Toxic

I see this so often. People who are consumed with self-pity hurt others and destroy relationships. In this life it's almost impossible to avoid suffering, but the way we respond is everything, I'll end this with a quote from my recent workbook. "There’s no subtle way...

Faith for the Impossible

Faith for the Impossible

After working with victims of abuse for over twenty two years, one thing has become clear to me. Those with faith do so much better on the road to recovery than those without it.

Surviving Domestic  Abuse is Like Being a Refugee

Surviving Domestic Abuse is Like Being a Refugee

When it is bad enough that a mother will risk homelessness, stop yourself before you ask her if she tried hard enough to make it work.  No woman wants to be a refugee.  No woman wants her marriage to end and to let go of the dream that one day he might change.  It’s not the easy way out.  It’s the only way out.  Ask her if she is safe.  Connect her with a resource like Called to Peace.

Sacred Cows in the Church: Honoring Marriages over Lives

Sacred Cows in the Church: Honoring Marriages over Lives

At least once a week we hear from abuse victims who tell us how their churches turned on them when they reached out for help for an abusive marriage. Today I got a particularly sad one in which the pastor told the victim that her actions were provoking her husband's...

A Promise of Peace on Earth?

A Promise of Peace on Earth?

I'm sharing the recent newsletter I sent with our Christmas newsletter from Called to Peace Ministries. If you aren't on the mailing list, be sure to visit www.calledtopeace.org to sign up. These days, I find myself saying Merry Christmas a whole lot less-- not...

He’d be Crucified in the Blogs

He’d be Crucified in the Blogs

I came across this post this morning and thought it was worth reposting since a dear friend of mine is being attacked on a popular blog right now. I have added a footnote regarding these attacks.  

I’m CONFIDENT!!

I’m CONFIDENT!!

I still see so many people struggling with anxiety, and this popped up in my Facebook Memories today. Still relevant.

A Biblical Account of the Abusive Personality

A Biblical Account of the Abusive Personality

One of the ladies in our online group brought up the differences between King Saul and David in our group recently, saying she thought she was getting a David, but got a Saul instead. It reminded me of this post. The interesting thing about Saul and David is that...

At The Heart of Every Fear

At The Heart of Every Fear

Fear is probably the number one problem I see in counseling. If you are anxious, worried or even panicked He wants to give you His peace. Praying you will rest in His goodness and find strength to defeat fear.